Why do we have the tendency to sabotage a good thing in our Love lives?
It could be our subconscious telling us that we will inevitably destroy whatever good comes into our life. We might be blind to the fact that we continually rob ourselves of happiness simply by worrying over losing it. This becomes a chain of reactions that ultimately lead a decent, happy relationship down a destructive path.
It is also likely a cycle – in many, if not all relationships – while you may not even see it. These may be tactics that seem normal and natural to you. You may even frequently find yourself asking, “What am I doing wrong?”
Since I am speaking for those who never intentionally want to sabotage their relationships, I know you mean well and have good intentions at heart. What you may not see is that you can be holding on a little too tight. I found these to be key tips to avoid sabotaging your relationships, and can help you understand what changes in your Love life should follow.
10 TIPS TO AVOID
SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
REFRAIN FROM OVERTHINKING EVERYTHING
From someone who deals with anxiety, I know this is asking a lot. My life is surrounded by my overthinking. If you are someone who tends to take everything personal or always feels like you fall victim in your relationships – it’s crucial to start changing that mindset.
I’m telling you – here and now – that overthinking isn’t always the right thinking. From the paranoia of whether or not he likes you – hell, loves you – to worrying about everything you or your partner says, does, feels, implies and thinks.
Sure, Love isn’t always black and white – those gray areas are sometimes questionable – but we need to be more entrusting of the black and white. In doing so, there needs to be more trust in your gut instinct and an aim for clarity instead of stewing in our own assumptions.